Just Wondering
2007-04-01
When I met my lovely, imprisoned, sex-offender ex-husband I wonder if I was one of those little girls (at least emotionally) that he violated. I was just naïve enough to actually married him and never saw what he really was.
I met dummy when I was 19. He was 21. I wasn't in a very good place.
I had married my high school sweetheart, Matt, at 18 and we in the process of getting divorce (Matt cheated on me with a co-worker). I was on a bit of a path of self destruction (drinking, drugging, you name it) because of the divorce. I had dated a string of losers, but I was enjoying what I thought I had missed out on because I married so young.
Then I met John. He made me feel special, pretty and needed. We married soon after my divorce was finalized. We use to play games in the bedroom. Pretend stuff - like him being a strange intruder and such. I never thought anything of it. Until yesterday. John's been on my mind a lot lately. Sick-ass bastard that he is. I wonder how many times he lied to me. How many times he cheated on me.
I know this is going to make the newspaper again. Not only did he violate probation, young girls were involved again. The last time, the newspaper quoted him saying something about his children. I don't want that to happen again. They're old enough to read now and so are their friends. Only one other kid in the county has the same last name so it's kind of a no-brainer who their dad probably is.
I don't know if I should contact the newspaper with my concerns before it goes to court or just wait and see what happens. In a way I would like the newspaper to put out a plea for more minor victims. If he's going to jail for a long time and I've been told to forget about getting any child support, he might as well stay there as long as he really deserves. My kids don't want anything to do with him and who knows how many other victims may be out there. I was told one girl's family didn't want to come forward back then because they didn't want the embarassment. I had suspected their daughter too, but could never prove it. Maybe they would come forward now. He's sick and will do it again. I'm not sure what to do.
Hardcore_Pyro (2007-04-02)
Your own comment speaks volumes and should be preached from the mountain tops.
Froggie (2007-04-02)
I don't know without a shadow of doubt that there are others. I thought I made this clear, but perhaps not. My main concern is for MY children and the best way to protect them. They ARE victims too. Imagine the humility my children would have to face as cruel as some kids can be nowadays. It's not their fault their father is a scumbag (to put it mildly). My oldest is the same age now as the girls his father goes after. Imagine that legacy. We live in a relatively small community and talk travels like wildfire. If some snobby family doesn't want their name sullied, I can't change that. I do know that John will do anything to make himself look better and he doesn't have a problem tossing the "but I have kids" thing into the mix. The paper prints what sells. They could care less who's lives it effects.
Sharon\'s Office Support (2007-04-02)
If you know, for a fact, of other victims, I would encourage them to contact the Police. Your going to a newspaper will not accomplish anything if you are not a victim. Law enforcement needs to handle sex offenders - not The Press. If Law Enforcement becomes aware of his involvement in more past incidents, they'll make sure news coverage "encourages" others to come forward and put him away. By simply referencing another alleged victim has come forward, that, in itself, encourages others to come forward.
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